So, you’re ready to start trying for a baby. Congratulations 🙂 Hollywood sure makes it look easy, but it actually does take some work! One thing to keep in mind is that if you don’t get pregnant right away, don’t worry. It takes most healthy couples about one year to conceive.
Here are my do’s and don’ts when trying to conceive:
DO Use an ovulation kit. My periods have been irregular my whole life. Ovulation kits really helped me figure out when I was ovulating! (which can be a mystery when your cycle varies from 30-45 days!) The ovulation kit I used is the Clearblue Digital Ovulation Test, and it tells you when your high fertility days are. Once you see that happy face, BABY DANCE TIME !
I also used the Glow app to monitor my periods & track my most fertile days. You can use this app to track physical symptoms, sexual activity (wink wink), and much more. There are also forums to help you seek support from other women.
DO take prenatal vitamins daily – take one that contains folic acid (800 mcg daily) and DHA. My go to vitamin brand is Nature Made.
I’ve been taking Nature Made Prenatal vitamins for the last four years. I started taking them when we were TTC, continued while I was pregnant and then after I had my daughter. I’m glad I continued taking them because little did I know I would be pregnant again eight months after her birth!
DON’T eat processed & packaged foods (including fast food!)
I started eating really healthy and working out right before I got pregnant – I believe it really helped in my case! I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I started eating healthy and working out and immediately got pregnant. I definitely recommend that you DO eat a whole food, plant-based diet (fruits, veggies, nuts, unprocessed grains etc).
DO drink filtered or spring water.
DO get at least eight hours of sleep per night. According to the OC Fertility, much less than this can cause a drop in the hormones that are essential to conception.
DON’T stress. I know this is easier said than done. The truth is that we all experience some form of stress! However, research does show that women who experience higher levels of stress generally have a harder time getting pregnant. Stress affects the hypothalamus, the part of the brain that tells your ovaries to release eggs.
DO use the right kind of lubricant!
If you are going to use lubricants, make sure they are baby-making friendly!! If your lubricant contains spermicide, it will kill sperm! Most standard lubricants contain ingredients that kill sperm, so make sure to use a non-spermicidal formula.
Listed below are some baby-making friendly lubricants. I have used Pre-Seed, but I have not tried the others. Let me know if you have had any success with baby making lubricants.
Are you thinking I don’t need lubricants… isn’t saliva all we need? I hate to break the news, but saliva may work against fertility. You may have to think of some alternatives to oral foreplay (at least during your fertile window!).
According to Healthline, “Some studies show that large quantities of saliva can impair sperm motility in an infertile couple. This might be true for a man who already has a decreased sperm count. But in most cases, if the man has a normal sperm count and motility, it’s not true. If you’ve been trying to get pregnant for several months without success, try avoiding oral sex to see if it helps you conceive.”
If you have been having trouble trying to conceive, it may be worth skipping oral sex on the days you are ovulating. Try one of the baby making lubricants instead!
DO try to have sex during your fertile window and DON’T abstain from sex. Abstaining from sex will decrease the quality of your man’s sperm. Also, don’t overdo it. Having too much sex can decrease your man’s sperm count. Aim for having sex once a day, or once every other day, during your fertile window.
Trying for a Girl or a Boy
Speaking of your fertile window, knowing when you ovulate can help you try to conceive a baby boy or a baby girl. According to The Bump, the best time to try to conceive a boy is to have sex as close to ovulation as possible. Male sperm are faster swimmers than female sperm. So, if you are trying for a boy, plan to have sex 24 hours before you ovulate and in the 12 hours after you ovulate. Basically, try to plan your baby dance as close to ovulation as possible!
If you are trying for a girl, remember that female sperm tend to swim slower than male sperm. You should try to have sex three to four days before you ovulate. This will give female sperm more time to get to your egg.
Above all else, remember to have fun! Plan date nights, weekend getaways, and enjoy yourselves. My hubby and I went on a trip to Belize the month before I got pregnant.
If you can plan a big (or small) trip – I definitely recommend it! It is so important to destress in order to better focus on your relationship. Enjoy the time you have together as a couple. When the baby arrives, you will have to make a big adjustment in your life. Have fun and enjoy all the love-making.